Do you have a sister? Today’s HerStories is from Julie Burton of Unscripted Mom. It is about the bond of friendship and love between sisters, which can be life-changing. How has your relationship with your sister evolved over time?
It was YOU…
Whom I told my parents to take back to the hospital when you were two weeks old because I was done playing with you.
Whom I teased and tormented for most of our early years.
Whose hair I pulled, skin I scratched and pinched, whose head I threw a rock at and who my friend and I tied to a chair because we thought it was funny.
Who finally became my friend before I left for Israel the fall of my junior year in high school. And we were both happy about it.
Who, when I returned home from Israel a mere skin and bones, as the disease of anorexia had ravaged my mind, body and spirit, was so beyond devastated that you needed to shut me out.
It was ME…
Who, after a long and painful recovery, followed by leaving for college out-of-state, and then returning to attend a local university the following year because I wasn’t quite ready to be away, realized that I may have lost one of the most important people in my life.
Who, when I began dating my now husband of 20 years, came to an even bigger realization that I desperately needed to repair the damage I had done to our relationship.
Who wrote letters, called, pleaded, gave you space, begged some more…for you to forgive me, to give me another chance, to believe in me, trust me and believe in our relationship.
It was YOU…
Who finally let me back in—slowly—and allowed us the chance to rebuild.
Who was my maid of honor and became g-dmother to my children, and allowed me to stand by your side as your matron of honor and become g-dmother to your children.
Who loves my husband like a brother and loves and cares for my kids like they are your own.
Who was one of the only people who would take my colicky son for any length of time so I could have a break from his incessant crying.
Who shared the experience of pregnancy with me, giving birth to my niece 6 weeks after my third child was born.
Who, 2½ years later, as we were on the exact same cycle and I was late, was the one to look me square in the eyes and say, “Mine has come and gone, go to the pharmacy, get a pregnancy test, pee on that stick and call me immediately.” Sure enough, you and the stick told me that I was pregnant with my fourth child at age 37.
Who (I didn’t even have to ask) would just be at my door, to take a kid or two, or just be with me, when I was so overwhelmed with mothering four children that I didn’t know if I had the strength to do it.
Who helped me feel less lonely and trapped when my husband’s grueling work and travel schedule often left me alone in taking care of my children.
Who held me and comforted me as I sobbed when a bout of anxiety/depression took me to a very, very dark place.
Who encouraged me to get help and to take care of myself, and told me I deserved to be happy.
Who has missed maybe one or two of all of the hundreds of yoga classes I have taught over the last several years.
Who always has the right dress or pair of shoes for me to borrow.
Who held my hair back when tequila shots and lobster proved to be a toxic combination for me.
Whom people often think is me (and vice versa). And sometimes we just pretend that we are indeed the other.
Who is the keeper of my innermost secrets, hopes, dreams and fears.
Who is, hands down, the most kind, sensitive, caring, warm-hearted person I know.
Whom I love more than words can describe.
For whom I am grateful, every single day.
Who is my sister.
Who is my best friend.
It is YOU and it is ME. Thank G-D.
How has your relationship changed over the years with your sister?
Julie Burton is a writer specializing in any and all aspects of parenting, relationships and finding balance. She is a wife and mother of four children ranging in age from 8 to 18, and soon-to-be author of a tell-all book for mothers. Over the past several years, Julie has interviewed and surveyed more than 400 mothers who gather on the pages of her book to provide a real life portrayal of what in is like to raise children today, from the embryo to the empty nest. Her blog is at Unscripted Mom.
If you’re interested in reading more about the bond between sisters, I have a book review today for the Nerdy Book Club about a novel from my childhood, A Summer To Die by Lois Lowry. It was one of my favorite novels of my early teen years, and rereading it today, I realize how many truths about sisters, families, and grief the novel gets so right.
Don’t forget to enter our giveaway for a copy of Carlin Flora’s book, Friendfluence: The Surprising Ways Friends Make Us Who We Are! You can read my post about the book and the author to find out more!